If there were 2 words this Summer spoken more than any others, it would be ‘Love Island’. Even if you live under a rock, there’s no way you can avoid its lure. Love it or hate, there’s no doubting it appeals to all the most basic human instincts – trying to find love. And, that’s what peaked the interest of Gerry & Dave.
It’s an odd time to be in the dating game. Instead of meeting someone down the road, we’re now able to meet people on the other side of the world. That’s kind of intimidating – is there too much choice?
They say there’s plenty more fish in the sea, so perhaps that’s the key. Maybe dating is a numbers game? 15% of the newly-single population take just a week to get back into ‘the dating game’. E-Harmony has been looking into tips for successful dating, and has found some truly interesting beliefs. For example, over a third of Brits think the more dates you go one, the more chance they have of finding the one. Are they right – is dating just about a conveyor belt of prospective partners?
There’s no ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ when it comes to finding the right person. However, there are some directions. So, they came up with, a list of patterns that are unhelpful (but common) when it comes to dating:
1. The Sign-up – The cycle begins when those who are newly single decide that they are ready to find love again. This is the point of the cycle where singles decide to sign up to online dating platforms or even reactivate old profiles they may have had.
2. The Quantity Fallacy – According to Dr Linda, many single Brits fall into the trap of thinking that the more dates they go on, the more likely they are to find what they are looking for – The Quantity Fallacy – which is simply not true.
3. The Hollywood Complex ‘The Quantity Fallacy’ has in turn led to singles looking for the wrong thing and failing to take the time to focus on whether they are truly compatible with others they come across on online dating sites and apps.
4. Mini-mances – Many singles looking for love online, now find themselves embarking on a series of short-lived and unsuccessful relationships. Nearly a third of people who have met someone online fail to ever make it past the six-month mark and half of 18-34 year olds have not had a relationship with someone they have met online that has lasted any longer than a year.
5. Rejection = Dejection – Bad dates are disheartening and after a series of them, along with a string of past unsuccessful online relationships, many singles start to feel dejected and worry whether they’ll be able to find love. According to the research this feeling doesn’t take long – nearly a third report feeling dejected after just three or fewer bad dates.
6. Dating Burnout – Dating burnout can be a common feeling experienced by those who are actively looking for love and dating regularly. After a number of bad dates, 1 in 5 people report that they would give up online dating entirely and over a third report needing to take a break.
So, there was a lot to make sense of. Gerry & Dave had to get Dr Linda on the show to understand more about this for themselves.